|This drawing of a couple in traditional wedding attire was on the cover of our handbook|
Because Min Jae and I are getting married for the church very soon we had to follow a preparation seminar. I figured it would be about the ceremony itself but it was surprisingly different.
A. They started off by talking about the differences between men and women, handing out plenty of advice. Basically it came down to saying that women are more emotional than men. They showed a few short movie clips that revealed the secret that what a women is saying often is the opposite of what she really means. This was brought in an entertaining joking kinda way but they were also serious about it.
|The differences were also illustrated in the handbook|
B. There was this moment when we had to gaze into each others eyes for a good minute or two. So romantic and so weird when twenty couples are doing that all at the same time.
C. Then it was time to fill out little tests answering questions like "what is your partner's favourite colour?", "What country does he/she want to visit?". All basic things and then compare and grade each other. We both passed obviously.
We also had to take a personality test to check the positive and negative points in our character. It was quite fun actually. Apparently Min Jae and I share our positive traits but we have different negative ones. The outcome was that we are pretty compatible, we are technically already married so it would have been too late to change course otherwise anyway.
D. Break-time: Kimbap + coffee
E. After the break we watched the documentary "Miracle of love" Okay, a bunch of colourful images of sperm swimming and egg growing. I felt like I was in the 5th grade again. It's still awkward watching two people kiss and rub each other jumping to an image of the conception happening.
After the movie we got some advice on how to conceive children. o__o that definitely felt like the 5th grade again. But we were also asked to write down how many children we each wanted and how we envision parenthood. And discuss our anwers with each other.
F. Another break: more snacks + more coffee (yes this class took all afternoon)
G. The last hour was a speech from a friendly priest who informed us that a marriage for the church is forever. And all the legal things surrounding this agreement. Okidoki.
In good old Korean fashion we got a certificate for our attendance (note: you get a lot of certificates in Korea) - we can totally get married for the church now!
For my married friends/ readers I have the question if you had to do something similar? Or is this a Korean thing? I'm not sure. In the end it was pretty fun because of the little quizes and tests but it was defininetly not what I expected.